At the heart of non-directive coaching is the principle that we all
have two "selves" - our "self 1" which directs how we behave in order
to comply with expectations of us by others and our environment; and our
"self 2", which is our authentic, unique self. The argument is, we are
brought up and encouraged to operate in "self 1", but our unique
contributions, and motivations and joy can only really be realised in
our "self 2". For those who crave more, see Gallweys "inner game"
I would argue that the same applies to businesses. We can try as hard
as we may to "align" people and brands, but unless there is real
connection, it's always going to be false. So maybe the trick is to
identify what in us - as individuals, groups, businesses is genuinely
unique, and build what we do round that - not the other way round.
As we determine - with a great Coach (!!) what we want as individuals,
and businesses, I suggest we are likely to be left with two key gaps.
Firstly, how we access the information, expertise and perspective in
such a way that whatever we decide we need and come up with will be
truly ours (not a "solution", or a "benchmark" or "best practise").
Secondly, when we have decided - how we convey that to our audience.
As a coach, I'm reasonably comfortable and confident with helping a
client achieving the "what and how", but the second, the storytelling,
is a distinct and different craft. It has (in my view) to obey the same
tenet as coaching - it has to tell the clients story, not a consultants
version of the clients story. It is a form perhaps of "ghostwriting",
with an end result that the client recognises, and that reflects,
precisely, who they are.
To come up with a compelling story is easy. To come up with a non
fiction version, using the genuine material available, less so.
It requires at the outset a willingness and ability to identify the
truth, then, an ability to take key elements - without distorting them
- and craft the context, identify the emotions, and assemble them into
a great story that underpins the individual or business. It cannot be
aspirational. Aspirations are fine, but they have to be part of the
journey, not a pretend current state.
We can do this if we have a shared commitment to using what we do in
the service of the client - rather than try to "reinvent" them.
More difficult perhaps - but wouldn't it be far more fun??
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